Marriage

Romance Your Man
by Betty Alawine Overstreet

Has the romance disappeared from your relationship? Are you wondering what happened to the guy you fell in love with? Thinking of trading him in on a new one?

Ladies, perhaps we need to take another look at this relationship that was so important and wonderful the day we walked down that wedding isle. Could be our man isn’t the only one who has been neglectful.

I was standing next to my book signing table in the local Christian Book store visiting with a young lady (seems everyone looks young to me these days!) and she said, “I’m going to buy one of yours books and it will be my next “lounging in the bath” reading material. I told her I also enjoyed a hot, bubbly bath but I don’t read in the bath. I like to light candles and turn the lights low to relax. I told her my husband sometimes goes ahead of me and lights the candles and prepares my bath water. She replied, “My husband used to do that for me, but he stopped some time ago”. I asked why he stopped and she didn’t know. I then said, “ Do you ever do this for Him?”

She was shocked at my question. She never thought to do this kind, romantic act for him, though she totally enjoyed when he pampered her in this way!

We can’t sit back waiting for our husband to suddenly realize the romance has disappeared from our lives. We need to take inventory of the things or actions that bring us pleasure and make us look at our husbands in a new loving light and know that he would probably enjoy the same things.

Now let’s get out our pen and note pads and brainstorm. I believe you will be surprised at some of the very simple things that bring a smile to your face and a glow to your heart. Let’s start by making a list of some of the little things we wish our husbands would do for us.

• A bouquet of flowers- picked from my own garden is as great as purchased from a florist shop!
• Light perfumed candles, turn down the lights and turn on some quiet romantic music-turn off the television!
• Call during the day and invite me on a date! Yea! I don’t have to cook tonight! Arrange for Grandma to babysit.
• Let me sleep in on the week-end, keep the kids quiet!
• Wash my car, inside and out.
• Mow the lawn without me having to remind him.

This is just a short list to use as an example. Now, let’s rewrite the list with you and I doing these things for our guys. He loves attention at least as much as we ladies do!

• Pick a bouquet, put it in a vase with a note telling him how much you love him.
• Same as number two above but don’t plan it during Monday night Football !
• Invite him out to dinner and you pick up the tab. Open his car door for him-really shock him!
• Wash his truck and leave a love note on the steering wheel.
• Mow the lawn before he gets a chance to.

Hopefully he will get the idea and the next time we are heading toward the bathtub, we will find our bath water hot and bubbly with peach scented candles filling the air.

I especially love the verses in 1 Corinthians 13: 4. These are often used as a portion of wedding ceremonies—chances are you repeated these verses to your spouse on your wedding day.

4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Excuse me now, I have to call my honey and invite him out for dinner and a movie before he makes other plans for the evening. Like maybe poker with the guys!

About the Author

Betty Alawine Overstreet has always had a love for the written word, either reading other peoples writings or writing down the many thoughts that wander through her mind. Only in recent years has she come to realize that the words she creates are gifts from God to be shared with others.Visit her website at bettyoverstreet.com